This post is all about how I managed to take care of myself and started taking baby steps to lead a more meaningful and peaceful life.
We all live in an era were no matter what you will be judged all the time. To start with, I want to tell you guys that I used to be a people-pleaser person for the longest period of my life. I used to think about other’s happiness first. I used to be that person who would remain quiet even after being hurt by someone’s actions or words.
Do what makes you happy
Very recently in my life, I have realised that it is important to understand what gives you mental peace and happiness. It can be people, the kind of job you do, your friends, it can be absolutely anything. Realising what makes you really happy is the key for living a meaningful life. I think the day you start focusing on things that really make you happy is the day you start living your life to the fullest.
You can’t please everyone, neither you should
Trust me, no matter how good you do in your life, understand that someone will always be unhappy with you. You just can’t please everyone all the time nor you should try doing that. I will not lie, but I used to be that person but yes slowly and gradually I decided to change myself for better. Yes, off course you can’t change yourself overnight. It takes time and conscious efforts and one must give time for becoming a better version of self. Don’t be too harsh on yourself, don’t overthink, don’t get boiled up, don’t get stressed out.
Any positive change takes time
Any positive change takes time and trust me it is worth giving that time for that change. So, have patience and everyday make an effort to think positive about your life. The ideal way of doing it is to imagine yourself in a place where you are all happy, surrounded with the people you love, surrounded with things you love. This will definitely help you in keeping yourself focused and work towards achieving all those things.
Ignore people who don’t deserve you
There will always be some set of people who would like to pull you down no matter how good or nicer you behave with them. I am telling this with my own experience. Don’t even let those people get into your nerves. Those are the people who don’t deserve your care or love, please ignore them gracefully that’s the only way to deal with them.
Surround yourself with people who genuinely love you and deserve your time
Please make a conscious effort here to remain with people who believe in uplifting you and stop thinking about those who are either unhappy with their own life, there own situations or problems and blame you for their unsatisfied life. Always mind that people who genuinely love you and care about you will always take the time and efforts to understand your situation first and they are the one who will respect your decisions and will stand along with you in difficult times and will not betray you.
Don’t keep yourself in guilt for choosing your happiness first
I have gone through a phase in my life, where I used to remain in guilt for choosing my happiness over others. But with times, I have realised that whatever I have done, I have done it for the good and I am really not liable for giving any further explanations to anyone. The most important thing which we neglect most of time is that we don’t genuinely listen to our thoughts first and mostly get affected by other’s opinion about us.
The only way to come out of this guilt factor is to accept and take ownership of your actions. In such situation, you should remind yourself that whatever you have done, you have done it for good and for your happiness. And believe me, that is the most beautiful gift that you can give to your life when you choose your happiness mindfully. When you remain at peace with yourself, you contribute in making this world a better place to live!
Conclusion
In this article of mine, I have share my own experience on how I decided to take care of myself first. I have literally taken baby steps to change myself for better. I used to be a people-pleaser person but not anymore as it had come to a stage where I was losing my true self. I had remained in guilt, stress and had felt the void for months for not being in peace with my own self.
The one mantra I do follow strongly now is “Forgive people in your life, but don’t ever forget what they did to you” because if you do forget, more likely chances are they will again try to hurt you.
So always be mindful of people who you get along with. Understand that your mental peace is crucial for leading a happy and joyful life.
I hope this article of mine has helped you in some ways. Do let me know in the comment section, whether you found this article worth reading or not. I would love to see your comments.
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