This post is about motherhood struggles that people generally overlook or don’t give much consideration to in our society.
Some of the things which I have experienced after becoming a mother are as follows:
Being Constantly Judged By Others
Yes, I feel that more than celebrating your new mom’s journey, supporting and appreciating you for this new phase of life, people remain more bothered about other things like your postpartum weight gain. You will often see people telling you “Oh you haven’t lost weight yet, you are still too fat”. They will also ask you whether you are able to produce good amount of breast milk or not? If not, you will be blamed for it for many reasons lesser known to you and list can go on and on.
To all those judgements, I want to give a full stop because no matter what, this is never going to stop unless you stop giving importance to all these uninvited judgements.
Our Own Expectations
Being a new mom, we sometimes feel why things are not happening the way we planned or wanted them to be. With motherhood comes so many unknown challenges. I will only say remain kind to yourself and give yourself time. Know that being a mother itself is the greatest thing that has happened to you. So, give yourself enough time and don’t put too much expectations on yourself as it can exhaust you.
Accepting The New You
Sometimes after becoming a mother we miss our old self where we were able to do our own things like exercising, going out with friends whenever we felt like, spending more quality time with partner etc. After becoming a mother, your life changes completely. You have to take care of your new born 24/7 who is entirely depended on you. In this there is no switch off button ever. Even if you are out for sometime and away from your kid, you will start missing him/her and as a mother it is next to impossible to keep your child away from you for long.
You need to start loving this life and accept it because just like the old you, this new version of you is also you. So, accepting and embracing this new version of you is crucial.
Missing Love Life
With the new phase of motherhood, you hardly get to spend any quality time with your partner. There are days when you feel low and stressed, because of not having enough sleep, emotional breakdown or tiredness. These things lead to anger issues. I think with new motherhood, you also have to constantly work on your relationship and it has to be from both the sides. Understanding and accepting this new phase of parenting is the key for striking a balance.
Conclusion:
Yes, motherhood is tough but it is worth becoming a mother. The sense of love and pure joy you feel, when you see your child’s smile is worth all the experiences you go through as a mother. Yes, unfortunately we are still being constantly judged by others because of which we sometimes tend to expect more from ourselves but in that process we loose our cool which is not healthy. I think it is very important to realise that and remain kind and patient with our own self because motherhood is a life long journey and you should give time to yourself to learn and embrace it in your own unique way.
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